December 30, 2016
| By Dr. Jane Leigh
I hope you’ve all had a wonderful break over the Christmas Holidays I, for one, enjoyed the long break and, well, just giving myself permission to do nothing (which doesn’t happen often)!
Over the years I’ve seen countless clients come in to my office feeling overwhelmed with their lives, some struggling to cope on a daily basis. Whether or not it is a symptom of depression or just the toils of everyday life, most of them tell me that they’ve either read somewhere or heard from someone: “Take one day at a time.” But that doesn’t work for me! It’s still too long! is the common response I get.
So, to my clients’ surprise, I reply, “Yes, you are right. One day is way too long.” They stare at me as if to say did you study the same stuff as the other psychotherapists?? I smile and I tell them: Take one hour at a time.
I thought this would be a good title for this blog as some days I, too, feel overwhelmed with my life, children, work and everything else that comes with the package. For those of you who have read my book, I was a victim of chronic depression and I was told many times by various people to “take one day at a time” but when you are feeling down and depressed, one day might as well be one month. I was struggling to survive by the hour. And so, I now tell my clients (and put into practice myself when I need to) to plan their life each hour. Sounds ridiculous but it works. If I know what I’m doing in the next hour then I don’t have to worry about not knowing or stressing and getting myself into that same vicious cycle! Then when that hour is up, plan for the following hour and so forth. Before you know it, the day will be over and you will hopefully be in a better frame of mind